Comments on: Check Yourself: Accidentally Contributing to Media Standards

By: Bodysnarking, Fashion Critics, and Worst Dressed Lists: Hiding From The World | The Demoiselles

Tue, 11 Jan 2011 18:38:17 +0000

[...] A lot of times, in order to deflect a bodysnarking situation, a do-gooder will compromise with a joke about something that’s not inherent to someone’s shape – their clothing. Unknowingly contributing to media standards, while attempting to prevent them. [...]

By: thefatandskinny

thefatandskinny — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 22:31:50 +0000

Great post!

By: Moorea Seal

Moorea Seal — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 19:38:20 +0000

i love this. i am constantly sadden by the comradeship that seems to bubble around targeting someone else, outside of the group, and ripping them apart with words.

i love women, and i love being a woman, but it is such a fine line between sticking up for each other and beating down someone else. I want to constantly be seeking to give compassion and love to my girlfriends, but in addition to that, I want to be inspiring them to be compassionate and loving towards those they view as their “enemies” too. It is easy to love and be kind to those who are kind to you. It is honorable and nobel, it is empowering, beautiful, and strengthening, inspiring, and challenging to CHOOSE to be kind and loving towards those that push your buttons, or who don’t see eye to eye with you.
life is a challenge ladies. Take it on and choose to do something good!

Thanks for your great post!
.-= Moorea Seal´s last blog ..Che-che-che Check it. =-.

By: birdie

birdie — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:37:41 +0000

It’s amazing how we’re able to alienate ourselves by bonding together to trash “the other girl” like that. Like the song mentions, the “victim” ends up locked in the loo, bawling all night. Playing victim allows others to feel sorry for us – but worse, it allows us to separate ourselves from POSITIVE solidarity – which makes us feel sorry for ourselves. It becomes an endless cycle of negative affirmation.

I’m glad you wrote this. More people need to hear it.
.-= birdie´s last blog ..Value You =-.

By: QuirkyKnitGirl » A peek inside my mind

QuirkyKnitGirl » A peek inside my mind — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:12:46 +0000

[...] Demoiselles ask you to Check Yourselves: Accidentally Contributing to Media Standards. I love their take on body image and [...]

By: tiffany porsche

tiffany porsche — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 08:30:43 +0000

RT @galadarling: RT @TheDemoiselles Check Yourself: Accidentally Contributing to Media Standards http://tinyurl.com/ykdp3ay #radicalselflove AMEN!

By: Crosby

Crosby — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 05:44:46 +0000

RT @TheDemoiselles Check Yourself: Accidentally Contributing to Media Standards http://tinyurl.com/ykdp3ay

By: sui

sui — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 02:30:29 +0000

Awesome post, and completely correct at that. It’s terrible that many people immediately stoop to criticizing each other’s appearances when angry. Or just in general.. why do “mean girls” exist? Or why do we do this kind of thing to our own gender at all?

By the way, I love that Kate Nash song, haha.
.-= sui´s last blog ..This is me. =-.

By: Ellison Ingersoll

Ellison Ingersoll — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 22:59:48 +0000

RT @MissElle: RT @TheDemoiselles Check Yourself: Accidentally Contributing to Media Standards http://tinyurl.com/ykdp3ay

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 22:28:00 +0000

RT @galadarling: RT @TheDemoiselles Check Yourself: Accidentally Contributing to Media Standards http://tinyurl.com/ykdp3ay #radicalselflove AMEN!