Comments on: “Real Women” Come in All Shapes http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes The Birds Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:59:18 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Bonne Vie - New Update at The Demoiselles! http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-1150 Bonne Vie - New Update at The Demoiselles! Fri, 29 May 2009 21:23:35 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-1150 [...] REAL WOMEN COME IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES!! [...]

[...] REAL WOMEN COME IN ALL SHAPES AND SIZES!! [...]

]]> By: Hayden Tompkins http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-256 Hayden Tompkins Mon, 04 May 2009 01:55:10 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-256 <3 <3

]]> By: Hayden Tompkins http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-255 Hayden Tompkins Mon, 04 May 2009 01:53:44 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-255 I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have DDDs and every once in a while, someone has said to me "my mother always told me that more than a handful is a waste". And I think to myself, "Is that REALLY necessary?" I usually respond with (as cheerfully as possible). "That's so funny! My husband tells me that more than a faceful is a waste." What bothers me about the real-women-have-curves sentiment is that it is bandied around by overweight women who are busy talking about how unhealthy 'skinny girls' are. So not only are skinny females 'girls', but <i>they</i> are unhealthy. It's basically tearing someone down to make yourself feel better. And it's wrong. So let me tell you why I LOVE skinny women (even though I am not one and I happen to love me too). Skinny women look <i>amazing</i> when they dance. Every movement is as sharp and punctuated as possible. Or extremely graceful. There is no superfluous anything to take away from the purity of movement. Skinny women can rock some AWESOME fashion. Wearing fashion for fashion's sake and not just for a body type. Skinny women also can wear low cut blouses without looking trampy. I saw a photo of Gwenyth Paltrow once in an almost completely unbuttoned shirt and it looked FABULOUS on her. On a curvy women, the same amount would look indecent. Ditto for short skirts and shorts. Skinny women can RUN. Skinny women look ADORABLE in oversized sweaters and men's shirts. Curvy women? Hollow laugh. Skinny women, FEEL THE LOVE. Don't let anyone try to tell you that you aren't fabulous! Someone is trying to tear you down to make themselves feel better! <abbr><em>Hayden Tompkins’s last blog post..<a href="http://throughtheillusion.com/2009/05/01/how-to-feed-you-family/" rel="nofollow">How to Feed Your Family For $60 a Month</a></abbr></em> I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have DDDs and every once in a while, someone has said to me “my mother always told me that more than a handful is a waste”. And I think to myself, “Is that REALLY necessary?” I usually respond with (as cheerfully as possible). “That’s so funny! My husband tells me that more than a faceful is a waste.”

What bothers me about the real-women-have-curves sentiment is that it is bandied around by overweight women who are busy talking about how unhealthy ’skinny girls’ are. So not only are skinny females ‘girls’, but they are unhealthy.

It’s basically tearing someone down to make yourself feel better. And it’s wrong.

So let me tell you why I LOVE skinny women (even though I am not one and I happen to love me too).

Skinny women look amazing when they dance. Every movement is as sharp and punctuated as possible. Or extremely graceful. There is no superfluous anything to take away from the purity of movement.

Skinny women can rock some AWESOME fashion. Wearing fashion for fashion’s sake and not just for a body type.

Skinny women also can wear low cut blouses without looking trampy. I saw a photo of Gwenyth Paltrow once in an almost completely unbuttoned shirt and it looked FABULOUS on her. On a curvy women, the same amount would look indecent. Ditto for short skirts and shorts.

Skinny women can RUN.

Skinny women look ADORABLE in oversized sweaters and men’s shirts. Curvy women? Hollow laugh.

Skinny women, FEEL THE LOVE. Don’t let anyone try to tell you that you aren’t fabulous! Someone is trying to tear you down to make themselves feel better!

Hayden Tompkins’s last blog post..How to Feed Your Family For $60 a Month

]]> By: Michelle http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-238 Michelle Sun, 03 May 2009 17:08:19 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-238 Birdiee: I forget that it's hard for thinner people to find things that fit too, sometimes - I think standardized sizing just screws us all over! I like "real women look healthy" although, then you'll get people saying "if you're over xx lbs, or xx BMI, you're not healthy so you're ugly", etc. When BMI is a totally outdated method of guessing healthy weight anyways...but I digress. I think women should just try to be happy + confident with what they have and WORK IT! Why would I waste time wishing I could be a size two, when realistically I probably never will, instead of appreciating my body as it is. Beauty comes in ALL shapes and sizes! Birdiee: I forget that it’s hard for thinner people to find things that fit too, sometimes – I think standardized sizing just screws us all over!

I like “real women look healthy” although, then you’ll get people saying “if you’re over xx lbs, or xx BMI, you’re not healthy so you’re ugly”, etc. When BMI is a totally outdated method of guessing healthy weight anyways…but I digress. I think women should just try to be happy + confident with what they have and WORK IT! Why would I waste time wishing I could be a size two, when realistically I probably never will, instead of appreciating my body as it is. Beauty comes in ALL shapes and sizes!

]]> By: Birdie http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-219 Birdie Sun, 03 May 2009 03:46:41 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-219 That's the feeling I want to combat - I often feel bad for complaining I can't find stuff that fits, but that problem is as real for us as it is ANYBODY else! That’s the feeling I want to combat – I often feel bad for complaining I can’t find stuff that fits, but that problem is as real for us as it is ANYBODY else!

]]> By: Elle http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-216 Elle Sun, 03 May 2009 02:04:17 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-216 WendyB: The "imaginary women" are the ones on the covers of the glossies. WendyB: The “imaginary women” are the ones on the covers of the glossies.

]]> By: WendyB http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-189 WendyB Fri, 01 May 2009 22:25:08 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-189 I always wonder if the opposite of "real women" is "imaginary women." I always wonder if the opposite of “real women” is “imaginary women.”

]]> By: Pamela Quevedo http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-186 Pamela Quevedo Fri, 01 May 2009 20:11:43 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-186 I so love you today! I can't tell you how many times my mother and mother-in-law have been asked if I'm anorexic. I feel guilty for complaining about the lack of size 1 clothes, but I've been small all my life and they're nothing I can do to change that. I'm 5'3" and 96lbs and I'm a non-dieting, exercise hating real woman too! <abbr><em>Pamela Quevedo’s last blog post..<a href="http://totusmel.blogspot.com/2009/05/power-of-voodoo.html" rel="nofollow">The Power Of Voodoo</a></abbr></em> I so love you today! I can’t tell you how many times my mother and mother-in-law have been asked if I’m anorexic. I feel guilty for complaining about the lack of size 1 clothes, but I’ve been small all my life and they’re nothing I can do to change that. I’m 5′3″ and 96lbs and I’m a non-dieting, exercise hating real woman too!

Pamela Quevedo’s last blog post..The Power Of Voodoo

]]> By: Ashe Mischief http://thedemoiselles.com/archives/real-women-come-in-all-shapes/comment-page-1#comment-185 Ashe Mischief Fri, 01 May 2009 19:50:01 +0000 http://thedemoiselles.com/?p=503#comment-185 "Real women support each other regardless of body-type” I think this is really what's at heart here. I'm guilty of the above-- I'm guilty of thinking negatively because a girl is too skinny or too fat (even though god KNOWS I'm not perfect). It seems that to lash out against another woman's body is the easiest way to win a battle & feel better about ourselves (much like the "internet masturbation" of tearing down another person because of their typing). What we need to get into is a mindset where we don't try & tear one another down because of arbitrary and petty jealousies, and support each others bodies. “Real women support each other regardless of body-type”

I think this is really what’s at heart here. I’m guilty of the above– I’m guilty of thinking negatively because a girl is too skinny or too fat (even though god KNOWS I’m not perfect). It seems that to lash out against another woman’s body is the easiest way to win a battle & feel better about ourselves (much like the “internet masturbation” of tearing down another person because of their typing).

What we need to get into is a mindset where we don’t try & tear one another down because of arbitrary and petty jealousies, and support each others bodies.

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