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I realized that I have very rarely ever thought, “I want to look sexy” when getting dressed. Nearly every time what’s going through my head is actually, “I want to look put-gether.” Put-together might mean anything from wild to classic depending on the circumstances. Which is not to say that I didn’t manage to look sexy as well, but the point is that “sexy” was not the goal.

And I think that’s the key.

Whenever someone *tries* to be sexy it typically goes very wrong, precisely because they’re trying. The result looks contrived, tacky, and/or heavy-handed. Likely for the reasons you’ve mentioned here: they’re trying to replicate some cartoon image of what they’re *told* is sexy, or trying to be someone else’s version of sexy.

When really the truth is that we’re all inherently sexy in our own way. All we need to do is dress well (meaning good-fitting clothing that flatters our form) and by default there’s always the sexy element there. Some people have an overtly sexual personality so their style will have a stronger or more obvious “sexy” vibe; while others prefer to keep their sexuality more private so their style will have much more subtle tones of “sexy.”

In short: if we feel good about ourselves we exude a confidence that is sexy.
.-= E and O´s last blog ..the wild high and low =-.

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It’s all about how women are redefining sexy to them, and wearing tougher clothing to reflect that confidence rather than conventionally sexy items
.-= Serena from Style on a String´s last blog ..The New Age of Sexy =-.

I feel sexiest in retro-secretary style looks, like a few of the ones you’re describing. Pencil skirt, silky blouses, fishnets, and pumps.
.-= Sally´s last blog ..How to Do Formal When it’s FREEZING =-.

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